Today we want
to teach you everything there is to know on masturbation and giving yourself incredible
orgasms.
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I’ve also
included some detailed illustrations, so you can easily understand what’s going
on and how to get the most pleasure possible when masturbating.
Learning how
to masturbate is fun and completely natural. The great thing with masturbation
is that you are learning about your body. You are finding out what feels good
to have touched, caressed and stimulated, and you are learning about what areas
of your body are most sensitive. So understanding how your body reaches orgasm
by regularly masturbating is going to make it much easier to orgasm
with your partner during sex.
While this
guide will show you how to get started on the path to giving yourself some
sweet ‘O’s, there is one thing that I’d like you to know before reading on.
Different
people respond to different things. You may find that certain techniques or sensations do nothing for
you, while they work wonders for others.
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The key is
finding out what works for you by
using our guide as…a guide, together with a little bit of trial and error. The
same is true when trying to increase your sex drive. So we’re going to
start out with making sure you fully understand your body, then you’ll learn
why putting yourself in the right mindset is crucial and only then we’ll
get to some of the best ways to masturbate. Also, if you want our more advanced
masturbation techniques, then you should check out this detailed article here.
We know you
may want to jump straight to the “How To” section, but please read this section
on your anatomy first, it will ultimately help you have much more powerful
orgasms every time you masturbate!
The diagram
above shows all the important parts of the outside of your vagina.
Clitoral
Hood – At the top of the
vagina, you can see your clitoral hood. The clitoral hood is the little flap of
skin that covers your clitoris. It doesn’t serve much purpose other than to
protect your very sensitive clitoris from getting hurt.
Clitoris – Your clitoris is probably the most
important part of your body when masturbating with your fingers. It’s that tiny
nub of skin full of nerve endings that feels incredible when properly
stimulated. As you can see from the diagram, it’s located just underneath your
clitoral hood.
Labia
Majora & Labia Minora – Your
labia majora & minora are the flaps of skin indicated in the diagram that
run along the outside of your vagina. As you can see, your labia majora are
much larger than your labia minora. The sensitivity of these varies from woman
to woman. So you may find them very pleasurable to have stimulated while others
don’t get much gratification from them at all.
Urethral
Opening – Your urethral
opening is where you pee from, so we won’t be paying attention to it when masturbating.
Vagina – Your vagina is the other area of your
body, besides your clit that is super sensitive and feels incredible to have
stimulated with your fingers or with a dildo/vibrator. And there are multiple
ways to do this which we explain (with diagrams) below.
Anus – Your anus also possesses a lot of nerve
endings and be quite pleasurable to have stimulated too. We cover more about
anal sex in this guide.
While I’ve
already mentioned the clit, urethra and anus, there are are a few other areas
to be aware of, as well as two super-pleasurable areas, the G Spot & A
Spot.
G Spot – The G Spot is located about 2-3 inches
(5-7.5 cm) inside the anterior wall of the vagina. However, as we explain
in the G-Spot article, it won’t feel
pleasurable to touch until you are aroused and turned on. So if you go looking
for it when you’re not thoroughly aroused, you’re going to have trouble finding
it.
If you would
like more in-depth information on the G Spot as well as G Spot masturbation
& sex techniques, then make sure to check out this article on the G Spot. But if you’d like
more scientific information, then the Wikipedia article on it here will help a lot too.
A Spot – As you can see from the diagram, the A-Spot is located much deeper in the vagina on the anterior wall by the cervix.
When stimulated it can lead to very powerful vaginal orgasms. However using
your fingers to do this is going to be difficult, so you may need to invest in
something like a dildo to do it for you. The A-Spot is also called the deep
spot, AFE zone or even the “epicentre.” You can find out more about it on
Wikipedia here.
Vagina – The entire length of your vagina is
sensitive and feels wonderful to have stimulated, especially your A & G
Spots as we mentioned above.
Cervix – Your cervix is very sensitive, and while
some women love having their cervix stimulated during masturbation and sex,
others find even the slightest pressure on their cervix to be intolerable.
Rectum – Your rectum is the area you encounter
after penetrating your anus. How much you enjoy stimulating this area of your
body depends on you. Our advice is to experiment. The anal sex guide should help you out.
STEP #2
– THE SET-UP
Masturbation
is so much more pleasurable and fun when you are relaxed and comfortable. So a
little planning ahead can do wonders. If you are going to masturbate, make sure
that you are not going to be disturbed…unless that’s what you want! This
usually means that you need to lock your bedroom door so people can’t burst in
and disturb you. If you don’t have a lock, then wait until no one else is
around.
From talking
to students, we have found that a slow and relaxed build-up leads to more
fulfilling orgasms. So if you have the time, you’ll find that running a bubble
bath or having a long and relaxing shower first is a great way to get in the
mood.
You may read
elsewhere that lighting candles, using incense and playing relaxing/sexy music
can all add to the experience. It’s true. But it can often be a hassle
preparing all that stuff beforehand. So try to figure out what works best for
you and do a little experimentation. You may even find that you don’t need much
preparation at all.
STEP #3
– THE BUILD-UP
Now that you
have everything set up and you are sure that you are not going to be disturbed,
it’s time to get down to it and start masturbating. If it’s your very first
time masturbating, then we recommend that you turn off the lights and get under
the covers. Doing this may make it easier to orgasm.
But don’t
go straight for your clitoris/vagina just yet!
You may be
eager to start masturbating right away, but it’s better to keep building up to
it. Start by slowly rubbing yourself from your thighs up to your stomach and
over your breasts. Try to listen to your body to find out where feels best to
have rubbed and stimulated. Your breasts may feel the most sensitive and
pleasurable to touch, or maybe your inner thighs feel best or maybe even your
waist does. The key is to experiment and find what works best for you and your
body.
Keep doing
this for just a minute or 2 before finally lowering one hand towards your
crotch. This slow build-up is all part of making your orgasm that much more
powerful when you do climax.
Finally, we
get to the actual masturbation part of this masturbation guide! I’m going to
cover the basic techniques you can use on this page, but you’ll find much
more powerful masturbation methods in this advanced masturbation technique guide and this one on fingering yourself.
FOCUSING
ON YOUR CLIT
The simplest
way to masturbate is by rubbing your clit with your finger. For many women,
this is their preferred way to masturbate and orgasm. There are a number
of different ways to rub, massage and stroke your clit, from softly rubbing it
with one finger to using all four in a more intense motion to using a pillow or
even focusing on the U Spot.
To learn 15
different masturbation techniques and see detailed demonstrations of
them, check out the masturbation techniques guide here.
PHENOMENAL
FINGERING TECHNIQUES
Once you
learn how to masturbate by focusing on your clitoris and the outside of your
vagina, it’s time to discover the pleasures laying inside by fingering
yourself. The basic technique is easy; you just need to slide a lubed finger
inside and apply pressure and stimulation where it feels most pleasurable.
But this
basic technique probably isn’t going to lead to body-shaking pleasure. To
learn exactly how to have earth-shattering orgasms from fingering
yourself, check out the illustrated guide to fingering yourself here.
A LOT OF
EXTRA TECHNIQUES
You may think
that knowing some clitoral stimulation techniques and how to finger yourself is
all there is to masturbation, but there is a lot more. If you’ve ever wanted to
learn how to make yourself squirt during masturbation, then check out these detailed instructions.
Of course,
you can also introduce sex toys into the equation. Click here to learn eight ways to use your vibrator to
enjoy wave after wave of intense stimulation. And don’t forget about using a
dildo too. If you want to learn exactly how to use your dildo during
masturbation for tear-inducing, eye-popping pleasure, then read the Dildo Guide here.
STEP #5
– BRINGING YOURSELF TO ORGASM
When learning
how to masturbate, there is a trap that you must avoid. This trap is thinking
that you “have to have an orgasm.” This kind of thinking puts pressure on you,
which can make it less likely that you will have one. Instead, a better
way to approach masturbating is to have no goals. Instead, you should look at
it as:
Enjoying
the process, regardless of what happens.
With that
said, bringing yourself to orgasm is not too difficult. You just need to find
the spot, techniques & intensity that you enjoy the most and focusing your
attention there while making sure to listen to your body.
For more tips
on how to make yourself orgasm, make sure to check out the super in-depth Orgasm Guide.
STEP #6
-MASTURBATION WITH PENETRATION
For some,
penetration during masturbation can feel great and take your pleasure to the
next level. There are a bunch of ways you can do this.
G Spot
Masturbation – You
can try penetrating yourself with your fingers to apply pressure to your G
Spot. If you find you hand tiring, then you can try using a dildo instead. If
you want to learn more about penetrating yourself during masturbation and
having G Spot orgasms, then check outthis article on fingering yourself and read this one on your G Spot.
A Spot
masturbation – If you
want to hit your A Spot during masturbation, then you are going to need a dildo.
Your A Spot will be too deep to reach comfortably with your fingers. Rather
than repeating myself here on what techniques to use to masturbate your A Spot,
we cover how to hit your A Spot in this article on how to have a vaginal orgasm.
STEP #7
– MASTURBATION WITH A VIBRATOR
Using a
vibrator can be super pleasurable. But before you rush out the door and buy
one, here are two important pointers to take into account:
1) Vibrators can provide intense stimulation
which can be too much for some women (to the point where it’s not pleasurable
and is actually a bit painful).
2) Cheap vibrators usually only have one
speed which can be annoying if you want a level of stimulation that is slower
and more relaxed. If you are serious about great masturbation, then our advice
is to go for a vibrator that has variable speeds even if it costs a little
more.
For most
potent masturbation tips & ideas, like finding and stimulating your U Spot
make sure to check out this second article that
will teach you our most powerful masturbation techniques along with this one on fingering yourself.
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